She finially broke up with her boyfriend - for good this time, or so she says. They've been together for a few years and it's been a struggle for the most part. Of course the struggle has mostly been for her since he doesn't seem to have any problem with fucking, dating or even having relationships with other women. When I've questioned her about it she's always replied that she loves him but relationships are hard work.
I don't get that - you don't have to work at your relationships with your friends. Is it still love if you have to work at keeping it alive and is it really still worth it if you have to work at being together? Bear in mind that I'm new to this whole relationship thingy but I just don't get it.
Sure I've had a fight or two but never about anything big or serious, they of course seemed big and serious at the time but that's just because I tend to take things way too seriously. I am now at peace with him declaring his love for me way too often - it was touch and go for awhile but I came to tearms with it...
Now I'm a little torn about what to do - they've broken up so many times before and always gotten back together. The first time they broke up I cursed his lying cheating ass and told her she was better off without that scum. When she took him back she was mad at me so each time they've broken up after that I don't say much - I tell her that he doesn't deserve her, that she could do better and that although he has it in him to become a good man he has a long way to go and she could get very hurt in the process.
She always takes him back and now despite my best judgment I don't curse him or tell her what a complete ass he is. When I see him I smile and am civil when I really want to tear his head off. I don't want to alienate her by telling her what I really think of him because I know that if (or probably when) they get back together she is going to need a friend. But I'm not sure I'm doing the right thing, I'm actually pretty sure I'm not...
